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One Curled Eyelash

Days escape to the young rants,

of words, of requests, of needs,

beats for these moments,

pushes aside own innate greed.

Dries hair, upon my lap she sits,

collects hair ties to borrow,

bruised knees cry for ice as he shouts,

hungry bellies demand, it is time to eat,

still my face finds make-up has no time to greet.

The washed up circles, crookedly sewn lines,

I’ll moisturize you again, dear face, when I find the time.

Showers of just a minute to disguise the sweat,

if only the razor and hands could embrace, like when they first met.

Hairy tops blanket one of my limbs, the other one bare,

the dress I’m wearing forgets to check I swear.

The morning race to actually match pants to shirt,

unbuttoned, does not even check, when I run to see who is hurt.

Those same pants decide to shrink, revealing is not my intention, despite what watching minds may think.

Lipstick kisses away to chubby cheeks, and those that need a change,

loving,

wrinkles dance near my tired eyes,

perfect imperfections outline a decade,

where tweezers are now so strange,

on stained piles of laundry, atop countless toys that do not clean themselves,

in their boxes drown away beneath, yawns and vows, tomorrow to try.

But still days escape, both she and he,

the days slowly coax years to fly.

So I must smile, battling the urge to wish away, these same minutes,

where the imprint of handprints and those of their feet leave beauty marks to be celebrated and worn

those that time flies by, in a flash, captures the beautifully torn edges

upon a heart that learns to enjoy that very flash.

So when you look at me, you’ll see it too,

Wrinkled lines of joy, under that

one,

still,

curled eyelash.


© Jennifer Kosuda and The Art of a Messy House (theartofamessyhouse.com), 2019. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Jennifer Kosuda and The Art of a Messy House with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Little Big Shots – Husband Style

With how busy our weeks get, we try to find time to have a family movie each weekend.  Last weekend, as we watched Pocahontas, this conversation happened…

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JOHN SMITH: “I’d rather die tomorrow than live a hundred years without knowing you.” (From Pocahontas by Walt Disney)

MY HUSBAND turns to me: “They have chiseled jaws.”

ME: “I was thinking…how romantic that line was.”

 

Husbands say the darndest things…

 

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Some Days Just Stink

Every January people ring in the New Year with high hopes of it being the break-through year of dreams taking off and miracles happening. And this past January 1st was just the same. I believed the great blessings that this year would bring as soon as the clock struck midnight. While I had tried to stay awake, I had only made it to 11:41 pm.

Hmmm… maybe my lack of endurance had been to blame for what soon happened…

Anyways, I woke up that first day with anything but a restored attitude. Instead, every ounce of my body struggled to get out of bed as I woke up with a massive headache. We had been with our friends and their kids the night before so maybe the two drinks I had gave me a headache? How could I be hung over? Wow, maybe my age was really catching up to me.

Still, I pressed on as parents do… cooking and straightening up, packing and prepping for the upcoming school week after being off for winter break. It was brutal. I told myself I would watch my former student and his Kentucky football team in the Citrus Bowl as I wrote and prepared this blog. However, I found myself freezing under covers watching the game with a heating pad along my spine and my eyes fighting to stay awake.

Soon enough, when the aches began, the thermometer told me different story, a 101 fever! Great! It was the first day of the year …the first day for a restored attitude …

and I could not work out because I felt so terrible…

I could not write (I always started mornings off by praying and writing)…

I could not spend time with my kids…

could not have a romantic evening with my husband…

I could not even eat…

I was not productive…

I just laid around and waited for bedtime.

The virus passed quickly as usual since I had worked hard in building up my immune system after having the kids. Now, I was back at school still not feeling like myself, but functioning and sweating actually more than I would like to admit. I was trying not to feel discouraged. We had so much to look forward to…

My husband had a potential new job offer much closer to home…

My daughter was finally getting to try straight cow’s milk with our allergist the following week …

TJ’s annual blood work for allergy levels would be back soon and for the past two years they had dropped significantly for eggs and dairy…

So much to look forward to! So much to praise God for… just around the corner…

If we could just get to the corner, everything would be okay…

Then the next week came and my husband Timmy took our daughter to try cow’s milk with her doctor. I had it planned out; since I was working until late we would go to church the following day to go to the alter and praise God for the outgrown allergy, a tradition we had done for all of the other food challenges TJ and Madison had passed and allergies they had outgrown. I mean she already ate chicken francaise, Hersey kisses, pizza, baked products, a bunch of items with cow’s milk in it, there was no doubt in our minds that she wouldn’t pass…

until that exact thing happened.

She didn’t pass….

…after just one drop, her mouth got red and itchy. We would have to try again in August…

Then, TJ’s annual results got back and they had stayed pretty much the same. The same!?! I believed… we believed they would drop drastically again…

To make matters worse, Timmy still had no news on the job offer that was given over a month ago.   They had been negotiating back and forth … until finally it fell through …

Jen, breath, it’s all just around the corner.  Just not yet….

 

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And then I read TJ’s report card: “He has a kind heart. Sometimes, he gets frustrated because his friends don’t understand him. I love his art work!”

WHAT!?!?!? Great sandwiching of the comments … but why was this the first time I was hearing about this. Sure, we noticed certain sounds were lacking like tr and k but he was our first, we had no idea what was typical and what wasn’t. As a special education teacher, I tried my hardest to not overanalyze and diagnose my own children.  Maybe, I was wrong…maybe I should have asked…

Guilt and frustration were having a field day…

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So I lost it. 2019, what were you trying to do to me? It had only been a week, but bad news after bad news plus the pile up of responsibilities on my plate at school, built up for a meltdown.

I started to think …
What a “great” year this is going to be?
Now what… will this year bring?
Can we restart?

And even something I totally had wrong:

What had I done wrong?

Then, as I stopped myself to pray. These words spoke to my heart…

“Be present and stay patient in prayer.”

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9

It was the time to start declaring the year was going to be one of blessings.  It was not time to be fooled by a bad day, week, month or season. It was certainly not the time to stand around and wait to enjoy “the right now.”

The whole time when I was waiting for the perfect news to praise God and to declare how blessed we were, I had it all wrong.

It’s not about waiting for the thunder to pass …

it’s not about waiting for the good news…

it’s not about waiting for the prayer to be answered ….

the allergy to be cured … the money to come…

It’s about seeing the beauty of the storm itself.

It’s about accepting that some days, some weeks, some seasons just stink, and

that. is. okay.

But what is not okay is believing that those days and storms will always be. Instead, it was believing and knowing that they all have their purpose. That they do transform us into who we are called to be… into our best selves … and for that we can genuinely smile through it, knowing storms do eventually run out of rain.

So get those rain boots on and walk proudly through those puddles. Find laughter through all seasons. Embrace the storm as you learn to dance in the rain, even if it tracks in some mud along the way. 

 

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To 2019… even though we got off on the wrong foot, every day is new chance to start over and for that … we are just getting started!

“And he awoke and rebuked the wind and said to the sea, “Peace! Be still!” And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm...” – Mark 4:39

Food Allergies are Real

Food allergies are real.   Just look at the facts.

According to https://www.foodallergy.org/facts-and-stats,

“Researchers estimate that up to 15 million Americans have food allergies. This potentially deadly disease affects 1 in every 13 children (under 18 years of age) in the U.S. That’s roughly two in every classroom.”

Those are the facts.   They are not exaggerated.  Unfortunately, sometimes people don’t understand unless they experience or witness it themselves.   With the holidays coming up, it should be a safe and special time with family and friends.   Therefore, it is important for everyone to put aside any ignorance they may have, learn the facts, and follow restrictions with an open mind and heart.

Here is an article that touches upon this common issue and occurrence. Check it out and help us put an end to the ignorance that often surrounds allergies.   Smiling on to a safe and special holiday season…

Family Food Feud

Source: http://allergicliving.com/

Making The Holidays Happy AND Allergy-Friendly

The Infinity Dreams Award

Anand from https://blabberwockying.wordpress.com/ has nominated me for The Infinity Dreams award. Thank you so much for thinking of me with this recognition. It is greatly appreciated and truly sparks even more inspiration. Anand is an inspirational blogger who writes motivating and insightful posts that anyone and anything can relate to. As he continues to share his journey of living this beautiful life, he inspires all who read his words. If you haven’t checked out his site, I recommend you to visit him at the link above. Thank you again!


AWARD IN

The Award Rules:

  1. Thank and follow the blog that nominated you.
  2.  Tell us 11 facts about yourself.
  3.  Answer the questions that were set for you to answer.
  4. Nominate 11 bloggers and set questions for them.

11 Facts About Myself

  1. I am obsessed with running. While I use to play games like Candy Crush on my phone as I ran, now I blog on my morning treadmill runs of 4 to 5 miles a day. There was also a time when I was training for a half marathon that I would play memorizing games as I ran. Some examples included memorizing the first 100 digits of Pi and Flo Rida lyrics
  2. My dream …I mean plan… is to be a published author one day.
  3. I am empathetic to a fault…if that’s possible. And I’ve been that way since my earliest memories.
  4. My dream job would be to be a singer/song writer and be able to inspire endless amounts of people throughout the world.  However, being a Special Education teacher is pretty amazing too. Plus, it helps that I have found that being TJ’s mom and my hubby’s wife are the most rewarding roles ever!
  5. I am actually a decent drawer…but I can’t draw mouths. (Ask my husband….it’s pretty awful.)
  6. As a child, I had an imaginary friend, Ernie from Sesame Street.   Unfortunately, he drowned.  (Don’t get me started on that though. Let’s just say that I have always had quite the imagination while also being overly sensitive.)
  7. If health wasn’t an issue, I would eat pizza and drink red wine every single day. They are two of my favorites. (Don’t worry, I don’t really do this.)
  8. I have had to teach myself to relax.   Relaxation does not come naturally to me. However, the beach is the only place in the world where I can sit still and do absolutely nothing and be content with it.
  9. I’ve had two experiences that tiptoed right around death. One included a struggle with anorexia as a pre-teen/teenager.
  10. My faith and God are the only reasons why I am still alive.
  11. I truly believe that impossible is not a word.  Anything in life is possible if you work your butt off and believe.

My Nominees

These wonderful people are not only supportive and friendly, they are also writers  who work hard to inspire others. Congratulations friends!

https://lindaelenablog.wordpress.com/

https://sylvialaurenceblog.wordpress.com/

http://fourthgenerationfarmgirl.com/

https://fillyourownglass.wordpress.com/

https://fivelittledoves.wordpress.com/

http://padgettwithpassion.com/

https://dearlilyjune.wordpress.com/

http://onetahayes.com/

http://acookingpotandtwistedtales.com/

https://theletstalkaboutblog.wordpress.com/

http://younfolded.com/


 

The Questions I Was Asked With My Responses:

Who is your mentor or who inspires you the most?

Throughout different phases of my life, I have had different mentors.   Right now since the start of my 30s, the person who inspires me the most will remain nameless.   However, I continue to look to her for guidance on how to raise a family centered on love.   She is one of those people who radiates sunshine and does not know how inspiring she really is.

Who is your best friend?

My husband is my best friend and rock. =)

What is the role of gratitude in life, if any?

I try to always thank God for my blessings no matter the size. In addition, I try to thank others every chance I can.   With that being said, thank you to all of my followers and those who comment and encourage me to continue with blogging.   You are amazing!

If you could meet one person from any period in history (it may even be fictional), who would it be?

This answer is going to be sooo random, but I am just that sometimes, sooo random.

Laura Bush or Katniss from The Hunger Games-   Like Katniss, I hope to continue to become more and more fearless to stand up for what is right.   After reading a book loosely based on Bush’s life, I was beyond intrigued and would have wanted to meet her.

What is the sweetest thing someone ever did for you?

My husband surprising me with our engagement in 2008 on a beach in Cabo wins this.

Which were the best years of your life – childhood, youth or whichever age you’re now?

Right now….I am so much more at peace with myself than back then.

Do you suffer from any kind of phobia?

Honestly, right now, I am working through the fear of another anaphylactic reaction in my son, someone I love, or even myself.   I am challenging myself several times a week to overcome this. Reminding myself to have faith over fear…

What do you need to be happy?

God, my husband, my son, my family, my friends, my faith

What is love?

Love is the greatest emotion to feel but the hardest one to put to words as words diminish its true beauty and essence. My husband and son have brought love to a whole other level that I daydreamed of as a little girl, yet never knew truly existed.

What is peace?

Peace is not worrying all the time with what others think of you or waiting for everyone’s approval.   Peace is when you look to only God for that approval that has already been promised and given no matter what.   Letting go of fear, and putting all of your energy into your faith, is peace.   That is peace and I am so much closer than I’ve ever been to it, yet still working on it. It’s a lifelong journey.

Who are you?

Mom, Wife, Teacher, Sister, Daughter, Friend, Writer, Runner, Football Lover, Dreamer, Christian, Believer


 

Here are my questions for those I nominated:

  1. What is your view/knowledge on food allergies?
  2. What is the one food that you could not live without?
  3. If you could have dinner with anyone, who would you pick and why?
  4. What is earliest memory that you have that made you smile?
  5. You have to get up and sing a karaoke song in one hour. What song are you singing?
  6. If you could go back and give your 12-year-old-self one piece of advice, what would that be? 
  7. What is the best piece of advice you have ever been given? 
  8. Who is the biggest inspiration in your life?
  9. What is your greatest achievement, or the one you are most proud of?
  10. What makes you smile on most?
  11. Why do you write?

 

Thank you again Anand for this nomination as you’ve helped us smile on ….

One Lovely Blog Award

Thank you ajoobacats  for my nomination. If you haven’t checked out her awesome blog, I definitely recommend it.


THE RULES:

  • You must thank the person who nominated you and include a link to their blog.
  • You must list the rules and display the award.
  • You must add 7 facts about yourself.
  • You must nominate 15 other bloggers and comment on one of their posts to let them know they have been nominated.

7 Facts About Myself

I am obsessed with running. While I use to play games like Candy Crush on my phone as I ran, now I blog on my morning treadmill runs.

My dream …I mean plan… is to be a published author one day.

I am empathetic to a fault…if that’s possible.

My dream job would be to be a singer/song writer and be able to inspire endless amounts of people throughout the world. But there’s one problem with that, I can’t sing! However, being a Special Education teacher is pretty awesome too. Plus, it helps that I have found that being TJ’s mom and my hubby’s wife are the most rewarding roles ever!

I am actually a decent drawer…but I can’t draw mouths. (Ask my husband…it’s pretty bad.)

My faith and God are the only reasons why I am still alive.

I truly believe that impossible is not a word. Anything in life is possible if you work your butt off and believe.


15 Bloggers I Nominate Should They Decide To Accept: (Sorry I keep nominating some of you…I just really think you are awesome.)

http://nickysdaywithautism.com/

http://happyfamilyblog.com/

http://thejoyoffive.com/

https://educatingbriansworld.wordpress.com/

https://jenniferpeck23.wordpress.com/

http://superinspiredmoments.com/

http://www.theguiltfreeguide.co.uk/

https://theloveofacaptain.wordpress.com/

https://fillyourownglass.wordpress.com/

http://fourthgenerationfarmgirl.com/

https://fivelittledoves.wordpress.com/

http://padgettwithpassion.com/

https://dearlilyjune.wordpress.com/

https://sonyca.wordpress.com/

http://cathylynnbrooks.com/

Five Fast Facts About Hives

Since my two loves (husband and son) both experience “random” hives due to dermatographic urticaria and/or other environmental factors, I found this article informational so wanted to share and smile on…  

Five Fast Facts About Hives

(Source: http://allergicliving.com/)