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TIPSy TUESDAY – A Retrained Brain

For one more week, my tip will be on a deeper kind of level and about faith. Next week, I’ll go back to tips directly related to eczema and allergies. However, for now, my brain and heart are here.

Plus, isn’t faith related to it all…     FAITH 10

In yesterday’s “In Touch with Dr. Charles Stanley, he preached about The Burden of Inadequacy.”  His message really hit home for me especially with the new school year starting today and TJ going back to daycare.   The burden of the “what ifs,” “how I wish it was,” and fears of what can happen have really been overshadowing my faith, thus sending my thoughts sprinting off course. RUNNING

Stanley reminded me that, “When God calls you to a task beyond your abilities, instead of giving in to your feelings, choose to rely on what you know about Him and His promises. By moving forward in faith despite your inadequacy, you will discover the Lord’s faithfulness. He always empowers us for the works He assigns.”


With that being said, I have been very “off” today (Okay, maybe for awhile), feeling scared, terrified, about this next step, back to school and daycare.   The last few nights I have woken up at 2:30 am from dreaming about different scenarios.   These scenarios that fear can allow you to create and act out in your mind can really drive you insane. They were doing just that to me.  It was and is time to retrain my brain again, replacing these persistent negative thoughts with stronger positive ones.

faith3In the past I’ve had to reconfigure a few times, reteaching my brain to think by blocking out the negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. The two most recent times for this were 1) about 6 years ago right after returning from our honeymoon and 2) after TJ’s anaphylactic reaction.

  1. After returning from our honeymoon and back to school six years ago, I became extremely overwhelmed with changes at work and the transitions at home.  I went from the natural high of planning a wedding, getting married, then a perfect honeymoon to six months of extreme anxiety where I could not turn off my brain from the negativity. I had so much to be thankful for and happy about, yet I felt so anxious.  Like usual, those feelings of anxiety led to feelings of guilt then sadness then more and more negative emotions. After barely sleeping for half a year and realizing that my thoughts and attitude was affecting people who I loved, I read “The Secret.” That was in when I decided that I was the only person who could make a change.   That no matter what happened to me in life; I had the ultimate control of the kind of person who I was and my true happiness. Therefore, I started to replace my negative thoughts with positive ones.   I would force myself to list five things that I was grateful for every time I thought of a negative one.   In addition to this, every morning when I would run, instead of listening to music, playing games on my phone, or watching television, I would pray and list every single person, quality, feature, talent, experience, everything that I could think of that I was thankful for. I would list everything!!!  I needed sleep and to feel sane again.   After doing this for six months, almost out of nowhere and without even thinking, I felt different than ever before.   I felt genuinely happy. Some people may think that it was insane that I did that for so long without any noticeable results.   However, I tell you that it was 100% worth it.  I believed change could happen, made more than just a conscious effort to change it, and then it changed more than I ever imagined.

“I trust you God…”

2. After TJ’s allergic reaction, I once again fell into a deep world of anxiety, fear and depression.   During those first couple of months, I found myself searching up all of the ailments that I must have had.  I was nauseous, unable to focus, dizzy, losing weight, always tired, and much more.  I convinced myself that I was sick with something.  However, after going to see my doctor and getting blood work, I finally admitted it was anxiety again.   To prevent myself from searching up online all the diseases and illnesses I could have, I put one of my favorite Christian songs on the search engine on my phone.   Therefore, when I was tempted to give into my fear and search my newest “sickness,” I would flip right to lyrics and words that I knew were the real truth.   I then started blogging, writing about my experience, replacing my negativity with positive thoughts.

“I trust you God…”

Yesterday despite the anticipation of today, I made it my goal to try to replace my fearful thoughts with positive ones. (Although I did allow a few tears to slip in through the cracks here and there.)   Sure, I have no idea what this school year and TJ being back at daycare as an active, curious toddler will bring.   However, I know that we have prepared and advocated soooo much.  We have covered all grounds over and over again, and will continue to do so.   Therefore, I am left with that decision yet again.  What will it be, faith or fear for me?

“I trust you God…”

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Because I know that I will not survive this year if I continue to focus on everything that I am fearful of because that list is endless, I must pick faith. So yesterday afternoon, I decided that I would think the simple, yet powerful words over and over again in my mind ever time a worry or fear tried to surface itself…

“I trust you God…”

Today, as we started a brand new school year and a new phase of TJ’s life, we are thankful for the amazing summer we had and expecting great year full of great new experiences…

“I trust you God…”

Yesterday, I heard Chris Tomlin’s song “Whom Shall I Fear” in the car with my son and I thought to myself, “God I needed to hear those words and tomorrow I will need them even more.” 

“I trust you God…”

Today, as my husband was putting TJ into the car seat for our first morning commute back, I turned on the car.  What song do you think was playing...”Whom Shall I Fear”… Talk about signs.

“I trust you God…”

My tip this Tuesday is that retraining your brain is possible.   Heck, anything is possible.  In situations that cause extreme anxiety like ours recently,  plan and advocate in every way you feel is needed. Never apologize for advocating too much, but be grateful for those who receive and respect it with open minds and hearts. (Today, TJ’s teachers did just that.  He may have gotten upset and eaten less than normal because it’s new to him, but he was safe and cared for, so thank you to all his teachers and caretakers. Thank you God!)

Finally and most importantly, have faith and trust that God has your back.  We believe great things are in the works because we trust you God so we smile on…

You hear me when I call
You are my morning song
Though darkness fills the night
It cannot hide the light
Whom shall I fear?

You crush the enemy
Underneath my feet
You are my sword and shield
Though trouble linger still
Whom shall I fear?

I know who goes before me
I know who stands behind
The God of angel armies is always by my side
The One who reigns forever
He is a friend of mine
The God of angel armies is always by my side

My strength is in Your name
For You alone can save
You will deliver me
Yours is the victory
Whom shall I fear?
Whom shall I fear?

And nothing formed against me shall stand
You hold the whole world in Your hands
I’m holding on to Your promises
You are faithful
You are faithful”

– “Whom Shall I Fear” – Chris Tomlin

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