TIPSy TUESDAYS: Find Your Trusted Village

While we have all heard the proverb, “it takes a village to raise a child,” have we ever thought about how this not only applies to children.   If you really think about it, we all need a “village” to live to the fullest.   As much as many of us try to do everything ourselves and not ask for help, it is not healthy or realistic.   Even though maybe of us know this fact, we continue on trying to achieve the impossible.   Why is that ?

In my own life, since the days of being a stubborn little girl wanting to do everything all by myself to now being in my thirties, I try to handle situations on my own.   I don’t like to pester others with my problems plus independence is quite empowering. I’ve always known that this is not the way it should be.   However, I carried on until now. While I will post more about this past month later in the week, I have learned firsthand that we all need a village of people we trust.  This includes not only family and friends, but also trusted doctors and support staff who know us well. Well enough to direct our steps when life throws battle after battle…challenge after challenge…”mystery” after “mystery” at us…

We did an amazing job of finding my son an amazing village. In addition to having remarkably supportive family and friends, we found others who genuinely care, guide, and have his best interest in mind. So far, they include:

√  An amazing pediatrician

√  Other pediatricians in her group that we also trust

√  A great allergist

 √  Day care staff and teachers who genuinely look out for TJ

However, in doing that, I forgot to devise my own village.  I guess that is part of being a parent.   You forget about yourself.   And honestly, I didn’t mind it at all until my own health issues arose and I found myself running in circles and circles seeking answers…and Google sure didn’t help either!

While I too have incredible family and friends, I have been blessed to not have to see doctors very often except for routine physicals.   I have an amazing ENT, great chiropractors, and gynecologists that all know me very well at this point.   I trust them and it takes a lot to get me to trust these days.  However, one important figure missing from my village was and is a trusted primary doctor.  The one I have been seeing is never available to see me when I go and so I usually just see whoever is available that day in her group.   This was never a problem until recently when I needed that missing part of the equation. I learned this lesson the hard way. Therefore, I have been actively looking to find a great primary doctor and have made an appointment with a new one soon.

While my tip this week is not directly related to food allergies and my son, it is a crucial one for everyone. By focusing on making some necessary additions to my village and ensuring my own health, I can best continue to do the same for my son.   With that being said, we smile on with the help of our developing team, our trusted village…

 

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3 thoughts on “TIPSy TUESDAYS: Find Your Trusted Village

  1. oneta hayes

    Hi, smiling… I’m just out checking on friends I have heard from in quite some time. Want you to know I miss you and hope you are not having more health issues. I’ve been missing some of my reading but I don’t find anything here on the blog for a couple months. When you can, give us a update.

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